My in-laws are very sweet people and love family gatherings. While I have no problem with that I am more of an introvert and only visit occasionally. My own family is used to being apart for holidays and birthdays and not seeing each other for these events doesn?t phase us. However, my mother-in-law always wants us to stay over for every holiday, even birthdays. She arranges these huge family gatherings for every little thing and is disappointed when we don?t show. It isn?t personal, I would just rather spend my holidays & birthdays relaxing at home with my immediate family. I have compromised and shown up at many occasions but Christmas is non-negotiable for me. She has mentioned to my husband that she is upset that we never spend it at their house. Well, we always spend it at home with hot cocoa, opening presents, having our meal, and then visiting the next day. I just like the intimacy of Christmas in front of our fire place.
Am I selfish or wrong for not showing up to everything? Often times my husband will go alone and we are both ok with this arrangement. I have been told to compromise and I have but I don?t feel like I should change just to make them happy. I prefer to be home with a few guests in an intimate setting. Dining halls, and lodges with half of the family is just not my idea of having a happy holiday. I ask again . . . any more suggestions for bridging the gap??
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